Science Says Women Still Want Men to Pay for Dinner


Ladies, are you staring at the tab hoping he’ll reach over and say those three special words, I got this?

Gentlemen, are you staring at the tab, hoping she’ll reach over and say those three special words, Wanna split it?

It’s that funny situation where both parties wonder what the appropriate thing is to do. Many will argue that the chivalrous thing would be for the guy to swoop up the bill. Others, will argue that in this day and age, expecting the man to pay is archaic and women should be willing to go halfsies.

Well, a study by Chapman University’s David Frederick offers a sliver of insight on what women and men really think. According to Frederick’s research, survey data gathered from more than 17,000 subjects revealed that women still want men to pay for dinner.

Consistent with conventional norms, most men (84 percent) and women (58 percent) reported that men pay for most expenses, even after dating for a while. Over half (57 percent) of women claim they offer to help pay, but many women (39 percent) confessed they hope men would reject their offers to pay, and 44 percent of women were bothered when men expected women to help pay.

Apparently, while the majority of both genders appear to support the idea of going dutch, some women are more comfortable with the idea of men picking up the tab. However, while a large majority of men (76 percent) claimed feeling guilty when accepting a women’s offer to pay, 44 percent of men said that they wouldn’t date a woman who never pays. It seems that there are just some old school tradition we just can’t shake. Well, at least not yet.

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By Charisma Madarang

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2 replies on “Science Says Women Still Want Men to Pay for Dinner”

But yet we want equal pay, want to be considered equals to men and become offended when a man holds a door for us (“I can do it myself, I don’t need your help!”)

Well, I’m not offended, but I’m speaking of women in general.

You know, I can honestly say that I’m glad I’m not a man in today’s society because I would NOT want to deal with females. And if there’s a such thing as reincarnation and I come back as a male, I hope I’m gay.


It says more about societal norms, than ‘dealing with females.’ The expectation that men should pay comes from an old school perception that it’s a man’s duty. Also, if a woman pays, it’s not a mark against the man. There are plenty of people who are not hung up on these issues. It matters more to me that someone would want to treat me to something, it says that they care. People work for their money, so wanting to spend it on someone is nice. If I want to pay for things, I hope that the other person would appreciate the gesture, not see it as a detriment to their manhood.

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